What Is Dysfunctional?

Having worked in the addictions field, one word a person hears a lot is, dysfunctional. Which leads many, I find, to think, dysfunctional relates only to the world of addicts. And I have heard many deny they may be dysfunctional because there was no addiction tendencies in the family. People are not born dysfunctional, we are raised in dysfunctional surroundings. And as much as we may want to deny it, the air we were raised in at times for many is, toxic air. We all have our tolerance levels and the good thing is when we do realize things are not as they should be, when living in a toxic world and start leading lives in such a way.

 

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I read a lot, always have. Not just the harlequin romance novels, but self help and a lot about the human conditions. Whether I am told my thoughts are wrong or to prove to myself, my thoughts are right, I get myself educated on many topics.

Dysfunctional traits come from a few traits and for those who are not living in the addiction life, it comes from.. fear… guilt and shame. When we don’t seek out the help to heal those 3 things, we live a numb life, in denial… dysfunctional!

One can only hope this post hits home in a positive way, that one person wants to seek out professional help, so they can lead a full functional life. After all, this is it.. there is not other life on earth after this one. It is what it is.. over. Live love and be happy!

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I Scratch My Own Back!!

Sometimes even after you scratch another person’s back, they don’t scratch yours in return. Some people are natural born takers, others givers. It’s all about not having great expectations of others. I guess that is one of the reason I don’t always ask for help but willing accept it, if offered. So for those days I can’t find anyone to scratch my back, I bought a back scratcher!!!! Not only does it scratch my back, it scratches other places too. And I am not offended, because I am the hand that controls how much and exactly where. Self control is a great thing. I forget where the hell I was going with this. :-/

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Born To Be Your Gaurdian Angel

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While we are here on this earth we are in the human body form and when someone we or someone we love passes over, they once again become spirit, leaving us wanting and missing what their human form gave while they were here on earth.

Of course we miss the sound of the voice, the touch of the hand, the scent of their skin. And if we focus on those 3 sensations alone, we are missing completion. Who we are completely, who we were from the beginning, even before we took our first breath of life on earth. Spiritually complete. There are times when I write that I wonder if what I say is like a foreign language. Only because it is hard to explain something at times that you have experienced and because it is not visable in solid matter, others can be skeptic.

 We need to realize we are never alone, that those who passed over are now guardian angels. And these angels are from our long family history. Great grandparents to parents, siblings and friends alike today. Even those who have set pets to rest, they are animal spirit guides.

I have experienced again and again, where I have prayed to those who have passed over and my prayers are answered, always. That is exactly what they want to hear, for each of us to call out to them. They can not help if not asked. Ask and you shall receive, I can not say that enough. We are here of free will and we just need to will their company , their assistance and they come forward manifesting exactly what we are asking for. Sometimes their answers will come from other people around us and it is not coincidence that John or Alice has an answer for you, to the question you asked of an angel or spirit guide.

I do not write this post for the fun of writing a post, it is my actual belief and my experience.

Learning to open our hearts is the beginning to living a life of contentment here on earth knowing that those who have passed over are still very near. Our souls and spirits live in a place where there is NO time. So don’t worry, we are never too late to ask for help.

One of my favorite songs regarding being someones Gaurdian Angel.. enjoy!