Humans are naturally born looking for highs in life. Who doesn’t like euphoria!? But some turn out to be full blown addictions, causing a toxic life. Facebook is one of those toxic highs. We truly are looking for highs in the wrong places. The need for the LIKES, when all the LOVE we can handle is the people we meet, live with, connect with by sound and touch daily. I watched a documentary about a famous singer with a band and he talked about the highs of needing to be LIKED …by strangers and people he knew, for him to exist. And once he wasn’t getting enough, he started abusing drugs and alcohol and then once that need wasn’t enough of a high, contemplating suicide was his rock bottom. He is in a recovery program and doing well and today, can only share his experience of getting lost in the dark abyss of social networking, as well as the lifestyle of the rich and famous. Stop looking for the need of LIKES and love in all the wrong places! Moderation is the key, which keeps the line of communication open, loud and clear.
Years ago, I use to play euchre and texas holdem at Yahoo games. A free entertainment site that you could chat with people from all over the world as you played cards. Then I got wind of a site by Yahoo, called, Yahoo 360.
At that site, everyone would post their thoughts and pictures, pretty much like Facebook, but it was not with family as much as it was with people you played cards with or met through same interests.
That is where my love for blogging began and the rest in history.
I do find it funny at how the very people who would laugh at me for chatting with others from all over the world are now so into the social sites online, such as facebook, twitter and others.
There is no more yahoo games or yahoo 360, but I am still in contact with those great people that I played cards with and blogged.
Yes, I was online when online wasn’t cool, were you?
Social networking and face book being one of many sites that offer it’s community members the ability to share common interests in hobbies, religion, or politics. Once you are granted access to a friend or family or groups page, you can begin to socialize. This socialization may include reading the profile pages of other members, discussing them, seeing those likes and dislikes and possibly even contacting them if they allow that. In doing so, we learn social skills.
The friends that you can make are just one of the many benefits to social networking online You can make friends from all around the world. Not only will you make new friends, but you just might learn a thing or two about new cultures or new languages and learning is always a good thing. And then there is the use of the network to stay in touch with close friends and family ONLY, yet even then, depending who they are, we can learn something from them. Maybe they live far away or lead a different life among other things.
It does not matter at the end of the day who you have on a friends list or why you’re on face book or any social networking site, we CAN NOT treat others with disrespect and should not. Not because I say so or because the site don’t allow it, how about because it is morally wrong?
Myself and I am sure many others have witnessed how even children are crossing lines and how they think it is socially acceptable to carry on at times with their group of friends in such a way that we know if we were in the same room with them in person, there would be no way the same attitude would be shown. I praise a family member for his choice of discipline after seeing such behaviour on his sons wall, banning him from face book and I am sure there is other disciplinary actions taken in the home. I also praise him for being an adult about it and not a psychopath by taking a gun out to prove a point. But I won’t go there.
I think what we do as adults whether at home, in public and online in a social network, will always show our children what is and what is not acceptable. And it is up to us as parents to guide them in a world that , yes at times can be hard to live in and or understand.
Social networking is not just online, we do it in a few ways, many ways, each and every day, whatever age we are, whether we are in grade school, high school, college and university, whether we are working at the mall, in an office or manual labour, whether we are attending a gathering, birthday parties, concerts, even family dinners, whether we are walking down main street or passing another person in the grocery store line-up.. Each and every day, each and every one of us is social networking and no matter where, when or with who we are doing that along side, the first rule of thumb is and will always be, RESPECT each other and each others space, where ever that is in this world, no matter what another persons, race, colour or religion is. Yes, express our uniqueness, Yes, learn from each others differences. We are here on this planet to learn and to teach. So at the end of the day, if we can be happy with what we learnt, appreciate it or be happy for what we may have taught, lets hope that what ever it was we did it with respect to the other person.
I belong to a couple networks and face book is the one which gets the most votes for how people are not respecting the limits of their account it self or respecting the boundaries of family and friends. We have slipped off the track and if we don’t get back on with regards, we can see the damage that can be caused on the news at 6.
Enjoy the world social network playground, in this case the, face book sandbox, play by the rules, but again most importantly, play with RESPECT!