Remembering The Past With A Smile

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Has the family unit has been broken into pieces.

I have 3 children and recall going to visit my parents a couple days a week, always a Sunday and at times take the 10 minute drive after supper to have a cup of tea with my mother, as we sat out on her deck and talked about her day and mine. My mother was a victim of Alzheimer, slowly she began to forget simple things she did the day before or a name and would always say to me, “don’t forget I love you.” Almost as if I was the one who was loosing her memory. Those visits are what I miss the most now that I am a single middle aged woman, living on her own. I recall how she would make comment about one or two of her children she had not seen in a while, she was missing them. But I know they did visit at some point, yet it was her feelings when she talked that broke my heart. Memories can be fleeting, time is promised to no one.

It is different these days, our children just don’t have the time it seems to visit once a week, let alone for that after supper cup of tea a couple times a week. Then we have the new late teen age group, who have either not been taught how important family is, how respecting their elders, related or not, is so important.

As I sit here by the window, with a chilly breeze coming through the 2 inch crack of it’s opening, hearing it shake the yellow, orange and red leaves off the trees, I am reminded of change and nothing or no one can stop it. Are our relationships, our families shaken as easily as the leaves off the mighty oak and birch trees?

Has this new society shaken the Mom and Pop’s traditional way of life? Have we found it easier to quit on each other than put in the effort of keeping the link solid between each other?

It is that time of year, once again, for me, when I experienced so much loss between now and spring that gets me thinking of those who passed over and how or if I took for granted any one of them when they were here on this earth, I bow my head and say, I loved you…no regrets. Rest in peace and may the autumn breeze raise your spirit and frolic with your memories forever. I will always remember the beauty of yesterday’s moment..

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FAMILY DAY 2018

Isn’t family a beautiful entity?! I mean, when you think of it, each of our families are, distinct and live an independent existence, yet all the while, we are as a human nation, fused as one, a single entity! A family consists of elders, which is the wisdom and the children, the continuance, which is the remaining existing force, left to carry on with that wisdom. Then, I ask myself, what is happening to our children, our young adults, that find some kind of comfort in eating soap pods, overdosing on drugs, committing suicide at an alarming rate? 😦
Have we as, parents, elders, dropped the ball, now raising followers, instead of leaders?? With the onslaught of social media, have the horrific events around the world, scared our young to the point, none of them want to take the lead?
I blame no one, yet think we as communites need to start pulling together for our young and raise more, LEADERS! .. and reward the followers, as they strive to become leaders or assist and give strength to lead…it takes a community! A few drops in a bucket can send a tidal wave!”
“Leaders don’t force people to follow they invite them on a journey.” – CL

Single Parent: Who Plays Good Cop? Who Plays Bad Cop?

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Life is not always fair for some. And one of those who get dealt a not so good hand at times is the, single parent.

There may be a reason or an excuse why one parent can not, will not take on their roll as a parent seriously or maybe because of a death. But either or, someone ends up being a single parent.

As a child I recall which parent played the good cop and which played the bad cop. Well what does a single parent do in that case? What an emotional struggle for that one parent who never rests from any title that is given usually to a set of parents, now takes on ALL titles with hopes that they are tough enough or leaniant enough at the right time for the child(ren).

There is no slushing off or getting free time as much as a set of parents can.

I was not a single parent but know of a few and my hats go off to you, and prayers as well as great vibes are sent out to each of you.

You will be rewarded.

I Don’t Recall

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“It’s like riding a bike, you never forget.”

I don’t believe that quote anymore, as I age.

There is many things I don’t recall how to do or what I did to achieve a positive outcome. Timing is every thing, it helps us forget and helps us remember. I ask a lot of questions of friends and family (Mom use to call me a, Question Box) and a lot of the time, the answer is, “I don’t remember.”

And what about the  younger generation?  Who think they know everything. I think I have forgotten more than they know, I just don’t recall half of what I know.

Memories are an important part of my life, I don’t live in the past, but I don’t want to forget it either. Because Mom had dementia and I do recall her frustration when she could not recall something.  So, I will keep talking, asking questions and probing for answers. I love google!!..lol…

Keep sharp, be that 2 year old who constantly ask questions. You never know what you could learn, if you listen. But that is another subject, eh?. 😉

Where was I going with this