HONESTLY SINGLE

One thing I have heard alot over the years of being single from people who are either in a relationship or married is, “glad I’m not single anymore! Seems like the life of dating or to find a partner sucks these days!”
Being pretty much single 10 of 13 years, that statement is fact! I don’t think you will find a “single person” over 40 yrs old say they love being single. Whether it’s a man or woman living the single life for 3 plus years, they usually have worked alot on overcoming alot of past issues in their lives and just becoming a better person all around, knowing their self worth and want to be found by that one person who can appreciate everything about them. No one is perfect and no one more than a, long term single, knows that better than many. You can not find a, single person, saying they are okay with not, cuddling another person or not having that one person to spend the rest of their life with. For myself I can be honest and will say, all I want is some one that will match the effort I bring to the relationship. Yes we all have our bad days, but we want some one in our lives that is strong enough, who loves us enough, who can cope with the bad days and show the appreciation for the great days. A long term single person doesn’t want to enter a relationship where they see more red flags than hearts. And maybe we, singles, do have a few more expectations, but again we don’t want to be the only one of the couple, making all the exceptions. The drive between two lovers should be a delight, and the journey is usually made up of no exceptions for many. I for one, won’t settle just to be with someone. There has to be chemistry. Oil and vinegar will never mix, there has to be a binder of some sort to hold it together, if not, then expect it to separate. So don’t think your single friends are too fussy or expect too much of another, we are motivated by first and foremost, knowing our worth and believing a, Mr. Right or Ms. Right is maybe just around the corner, armed with that unconditional love you happy couples brag about all the time. Until then, even in our loneliest hour we will fall asleep hugging our pillows a little tighter than most and let our faith and good old destiny play it’s roll each morning we wake up because we have come to realize the difference between an, I love you and I am IN love with you.

 

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Here I Am!!

Such a great feeling, yet I have this difficulty explaining exactly just what that feeling is… living in the moment…

So many friends and family are always planning for the future, I don’t. I have learnt to live in this moment. And at times, I do need to self check myself, when I find myself leaning towards, sad or feeling depressed. 99% of the time, when I am feeling that way, it is because I was dwelling on the past or expecting more of tomorrow. So one learns and forms the mindset.. I can’t change yesterday and realistically, I can’t predict tomorrow.

Here I am, happy! Most of the time, excessively.  I came across a small write up with regards to living in the now and wanted to share with you, because it states pretty much, the definition of doing that.. for myself anyway.

The Eternal Present!!

“Be Here Now! Realize deeply that the present moment is all you ever have! Waiting is a state of mind. Basically, it means that you want the future; you don’t want the present. You don’t want what you’ve got, and you want what you haven’t got. With every kind of waiting, you unconsciously create inner conflict between your here and now, where you don’t want to be, and the projected future, where you want to be. This greatly reduces the quality of your life by making you lose the present.

There is nothing wrong with striving to improve your life situation. You can improve your life situation, but you cannot improve your life. Life is primary. Life is your deepest inner Being. It is already whole, complete, perfect. Your life situation consists of your circumstances and your experiences. There is nothing wrong with setting goals and striving to achieve things. The mistake lies in using it as a substitute for the feeling of life, for Being. The only point of access for that is the Now.

Have you ever experienced, done, thought, or felt anything outside the Now? Do you think you ever will? Is it possible for anything to happen or be outside the Now? The answer is obvious, is it not?

Nothing ever happened in the past; it happened in the Now.
Nothing will ever happen in the future; it will happen in the Now.
What you think of as the past is a memory trace, stored in the mind, of a former Now. When you remember the past, you reactivate a memory trace – and you do so now. The future is an imagined Now, a projection of the mind. When the future comes, it comes as the Now. When you think about the future, you do it now. Past and future obviously have no reality of their own. Just as the moon has no light of its own, but can only reflect the light of the sun, so are past and future only pale reflections of the light, power, and reality of the eternal present. Their reality is “borrowed” from the Now.

The essence of what I am saying here cannot be understood by the mind. The moment you grasp it, there is a shift in consciousness from mind to Being, from time to presence. Suddenly, everything feels alive, radiates energy, emanates Being. -ET”

My Happiness….

Have I told you lately that I am the most happiest girl in the whole wide world!!!?.. lol.. I hope you are just as happy.. It’s new and it’s free this happiness I feel. How can one define it or how can it be compared? I don’t think it can be. Many moons ago, I was in the store talking to friend and she was telling me about, the love, a person feels for a grandbabe, that it is unlike any kind of love. It wasn’t that I didn’t believe her, I just thought, how can I love another being as much as I love my own children… Until.. I had my 1st grandbabe… she was right!!.. So now this happiness I feel, for me, is a whole new level of being. And me, being a woman of words, can not find the words to describe my happiness.. its so unique.
How do you describe your happiness?
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Another Key Of Spirituality ~ Unseen Love

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A great man said to me some time ago…

“I vow to give you the support needed without complaint or resignation, for that is my significance in life and the reason for my existence, I want you to touch me, feel me, giving to you, unseen, for as long as you need me, for I embrace the weight of your worlds, unselfishly”

I would say it has taken a long time to understand what he was really saying but I was not listening. Maybe it was because I was not ready to understand. It is a love unconditional, a free love with no limits. How blessed I was and how blessed I am to have had such a person in my life when I needed them most. I know my Higher Power set this person in my path. And yet, until they left my pathway, did I realize how much he was really showing me the way.

I don’t know if anyone else thinks the way I do, but to me each relationship I have with anyone.. Good or bad, leaves a mark on me and the good ones, leave me with something that can not be replaced by any other in this world, some marks stronger than others, more noticeable than others.. As with him, there will be no one ever who will or can hold a candle to what he meant to me over that entire 3 years, how forever all that it was will be stored in a most treasured spot.. My heart.. He has encouraged nothing but good in my being and for that I will be forever thankful.

I have learnt how to love, let go, and open my heart to love again. And I’ve survived those heart-wrenching, gut-twisting break-ups that slam a person to the ground and rip you to pieces whether by a loved one dying or deciding they do not or can not be with me.. All things out of my control.

I read some where this quote..”You are a link, that to me, will never go missing.” – Unknown

How often do we feel that way about some one in our lives? And how many people go through their lives never feeling that way at all about another?

I have chosen to forgive pain in my life and see how it may have benefited me instead of suffering from it. And I will always remember who has brought some kind of love to my life, for there is many kinds of love. For every separation, I have made a connection to a greater source.. My Higher Power and to me, that is healing.

As the great Ram Dass has said, ‘Keep in mind these fours words, I am loving awareness.”

I do believe that at the end of the day it is all about the unseen love of feelings.

Another Key Of Spirituality – Unconditional Love

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When you love with your ego, you are not feeling. It’s a love from the head, where there is not always common sense. And so many live by and love by their ego, mother, father, doctors is pretty much a label we give ourselves. Sadly we seem to be people that need labels and numbers. Yes we all fill rolls in our life times. It is just about letting go of expectations and loving another without those expectations. There is no limit to unconditional love. It is a love that is free flowing and eternal.

Spiritual love comes from the heart, we learn to love everything and learn how to love even those who do not love us the same. It is so simple a love, but something that makes a person feel so grand! After a while when you begin to love spiritually, we naturally radiate that sort of love to those around us and they learn to also love, unconditionally. I have been loved unconditionally from the beginning till this day by my Higher Power and it is His love I want to radiate, that love to those around me naturally.