Classy & Dirty Diapers


This post I write in memory of my Mother. Who brought 11 children into this world and still carried herself with class when she left the house, for any reason. She never went out the door without applying one thing… lipstick. That one little act, that one little tube of color, made her feel beautiful, even if she just changed the diaper of one of those 11 children. Rest in Peace Momma!


Being a people watcher, of course I was watching people yesterday while at the mall in the city. On that particular day, I was noticing the young women. From how they were dressed, how they smiled or not smiled, when passing by someone that looked them in the eye. How they were dressed or not dressed, meaning the style of dress, not the cost or what store they were going in. But if I can be honest, we never know which person walking into any store has the most money in their wallet. It could be the worse dressed or the finest dressed. Confidence in one’s self does not cost in dollars. It’s free to you and how you choose to radiate it to the rest of the world, again, is up to you.

She’s a lady! You’re a lady! Don’t be shy when it comes to being all that you can be!

Keep challenging ‘guys’ to be ‘men’ ! By simply acting like a lady, dressing with self pride and speaking with charm. Men are very visual and while their eyes may wonder to a bare breast, they are more focused on a breast/chest covered with clothing of pretty colors and material and their eyes do rise above the chest, intoxicated with a beautiful smile of a confident woman. Our young women need to learn the seductive power of a clean and decent use of words and that modesty isn’t about sweat pants or turtlenecks, its about revealing her dignity, again, showing through the smile on her face. This message/note is not about being a servant to a man’s needs, its about being confident of your own self worth and that being a woman is a beautiful birth right, no matter our race, our color, our religion, being disabled or not,  our ancestry and sexual preferences. Some will read this and say, that is bowing to a man’s needs or society’s expectations. It is not! I don’t rise each day, do my hair, my make up, get dressed accordingly because of someone else’s expectations, I do it because I have expectations of myself.


Then there are the natural beauties, we all have natural beauty. Whether we want to add color on our cheeks or not, does not mean one is less than the other.. again.. self pride and being classy, is a way of life. And staying classy has nothing to do with where I am on a money chart, what race I am, where I live, or what my age is. I do it to challenge my own abilities of rising above what others and society expect of me, I do it because I will hold my head high when I walk down the street, no matter what anyone thinks. Because, well, lets just say, as the saying goes… “I know what I can or will bring to any table I sit at and I am not afraid to eat alone”


Elegance and inner beauty, confidence and self worth will never go out of style. And no one can take it away from you, but you as a young woman, as a woman in her middle years or golden years can give it up and give it away… that is easy to do.. respect yourself and be respected.

You Are Loved…

In less than a week everything that has touched my heart has had to do with children who are in my life, some close, some far.

I watched children learn about in a school setting what it feels like to be judged, humiliated because of the color of their skin. I watched a video of a 6 year old child who wakes crying because he suffers from depression and how he is set at ease by his mothers touch and words. And then I get an invite to a court hearing where a friends deceased son’s children are legally set in his mothers care.

All these events have to do with the well-being of the children.

Sometime we wonder why would God allows children to go through so much pain so early in their lives. I have my own thoughts on this subject that I want to share in this blog.

Children are not born with feelings of hate, depression, sadness and hurt, those are things they will experience through out their lives, yes, we think too early in their lives. But children are survivors of many things, we all know that because if we think back on our childhood, 90% of us went thru some kind of trauma and we have or are, recovering from it, we have learnt to move forward. The greatest remedy to help us do that is love. Love of self, love from others, love of God. If those children suffering with any kind of trauma are to survive it will begin and end with love.

I believe it is the adult in the child’s life that learns the greatest lessons when they have children in their lives who are suffering. We learn compassion, tolerance, prayer, humbleness, forgiveness and again most of all, we learn unconditional love.

When my father passed over, I was allowed to pick the song to be played in the church in his memory and I thought this song could not say it more clearly. That no matter who we are, where we live, the color of our skin, our beliefs, nothing at all matters, we are loved while here on earth for just being ourselves by somebody.

I thought again this morning of this song, because I was asked if I could think of a song to play in court on the day my friend is given soul custody of her deceased son’s children, what better song, letting those children know that no matter what happens in their lives, they are loved.

And so are you!