Those Three Words

I found this write up in my documents but I know it was not I who wrote it. I claim no part of it, but found it suiting for my thoughts today.

THere are some days when a persons feeling do get lost in translation. So, then what happens? Maybe we should of just used 3 words and not more than?


Some of the most significant messages people deliver to one another often come in just three words. When spoken or conveyed, those statements have the power to forge new friendships, deepen old ones and restore relationships that have cooled.The following three word phrases can enrich every relationship:
I’LL BE THERE – Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we are truly present for other people, important things happen to them and to us. We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. ‘Being there’ is at the very, very core of civility.
I MISS YOU – Perhaps more marriages could be salvaged and strengthened if couples simply and sincerely said to each other, “I miss you.” This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired and loved.
I RESPECT YOU – Respect is another way of showing love. Respect conveys the feeling that another person is a true equal. It is a powerful way to affirm the importance of a relationship.
MAYBE YOU’RE RIGHT – This phrase is highly effective in diffusing an argument and restoring frayed emotions. The flip side of “maybe you’re right” is the humility of admitting “maybe I’m wrong.”
PLEASE FORGIVE ME – Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults, foibles and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up to he has been in the wrong, which is by saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.
I THANK YOU – Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the companionship of good, close friends are those who don’t take daily courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.
COUNT ON ME – “A friend is one who walks in when others walk out.” “Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true friendship; it is the emotional glue that bonds people. Those who are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there, indicating “you can count on me.”
LET ME HELP – The best of friends see a need and try to fill it. When they spot a hurt they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they pitch in and help.
I UNDERSTAND YOU – People become closer and enjoy each other more if they feel the other person accepts and understands them. Letting others know in so many little ways that you understand him or her is one of the most powerful tools for healing your relationship.
GO FOR IT – Some of your friends may be non-conformists, have unique projects and unusual hobbies. Support them in pursuing their interests. Rather than urging your loved ones to conform, encourage their uniqueness – everyone has dreams that no one else has.

I suppose the 3 little words that you were expecting to see have to be reserved for those who are special; that is I LOVE YOU.

Dating Site Half Dozen!


I’ve been on a dating site, off and on for a few years now. One of my daughters suggestion. I guess because she didn’t like to see me alone. But let me tell you, there are times after meeting some men, being alone is a God send. Haha. Don’t get me wrong, there are just as many great men on these sites as they are head gamers and ones that think with the wrong head alot. A person just has to weed out the bad and take the time to meet the great guys or women to see if there is a spark. And, there is no doubt, you may meet over a meal or coffee a hundred times and not experience a spark. Learning to take things in stride, even when it comes to dating and believing that that one special person for you is not that far away.


I have come up with a half dozen clues that should raise a red flag for you. And yes, I have experienced them personally. By no means am I an expert on dating, however,  I was born at night, but not last night. 🙂


I wish you the best of luck on whatever dating site you are on and even after a bad meeting or date, don’t loose hope, we have to go thru a lot of toads to get to our king or queen.


A Half Dozen Reasons To Run The Other Way .


1. You read their dating profile, if the first paragraph is about how they think there is so many crazy people on the dating site, evidently they are meeting a lot of members or are they?

2. 80% of any conversation you have with them, is about them. The topic being how they are wanted by many and respected by even more

3. When he/she is with you, they wants to show you the women on the dating site they are  currently chatting with or who are interested in them.

4. They talk about a great love in their past and compares or wants the same kind of love in the future.

5. Has several reasons or outs they can take, which they will inform you of, just in case they are just not that into you.

6. Does not follow through on  their suggestion of wanting a 2nd meeting and or date. No text, no phone call, no visit. And does not answer your text or take your phone call.

When I Surrendered


For many of us there is a time in our lives when we come to a crossroads. For some this journey may have been devastating, for some, we come upon the crossroads just in the nick of time before we journeyed a long hard road. We all have different strengths, but the most important is being able to use the strength, realize that strength to make a change for the better.

I have been a people watcher, listened to people, read about people and the one thing we all have in common is the pain of letting someone down, someone we should of loved enough to make a stand for, ourselves.

We usually have to be on our knees asking how to overcome hardship, how to deal with the trials of life.

When I look back, I can honestly say the biggest turning point in my life came when I worked at the addictions center, learning and living a program that inspired me to be better to and for myself. No, I did not have an addiction to drugs or alcohol, but I know today that I could of easily fell into that lifestyle if I did not take on the program.  I needed spiritual healing.

There is a couple sentences in the Big Book, Chapter 7, Working With Others, that stayed with me..

“When we look back, we realize that the things which came to us when we put ourselves in God’s hands were better than anything we could have planned. Follow the dictates of a Higher Power and you will presently live in a new and wonderful world, no matter what your present circumstance!!”

I made a statement in the board room one day at a staff meeting and I still stand by that statement today.. I truly believe everyone, addicted or not can benefit from a 12 step program or if nothing else, read The Big Book. I am sure glad I did, because the outcome is the person you know today and I think I’m okay.

I will always be grateful for the friends I made there, in the staff..God Bless Us All

My Soul My Home Fires


We all have scars, but the ones that get past them are the ones that recognize them, validate them and then see them as beauty marks, not markings of detest or ugly. Because they are what makes us up in mind, body and soul.

You ever come in contact with the  people who are seemingly frustrated a lot with scars, with life, saying they think they deserved better treatment from others and from life? And while they are thinking of what they are deserving, a part of the soul and spirit perish in loneliness. The world we desire does exist and is real. If it is one of happiness and joy or sadness and pity, what you put out, you get back.

In some of us a spark goes out and as long as we keep the windows to our soul and spirit closed, nothing can penetrate and ignite that spark again.. Nothing and no one.

There is a transformation that takes place, if we want it to. I will compare it to living in a pine cabin during the cold northern  Ontario winter months.

I use to love being gone from the cabin for the weekend, visiting somewhere, coming back to a pile of snow in drive and atop the roof, temperatures still below minus 20 degrees Celsius. To go in the cabin and it be so cold,  the best part was lighting the woodstove, getting it roaring to heat what once was cold, transforming what was once frozen to a warm spark and glow.

That is how the spirit is. We can leave it in the dark and dingy or work on striking up some heat, lighting a spark to warmth rest of our being.

Keep your home fires burning, share love and give love.

Robin Casarjean said, “Take the time to come home to yourself every day.



What is a word? It’s a unit of a language consisting of sounds and or their written representation. Words are separated by spaces in writing and are distinguished by accent in many languages. We express emotions in words, they form an expression  of who we are and what we do. As I age, and try to perfect my writing, words have become very important to me and I know how one word can hurt or heal. How one word can set in motion so many different actions. So when we voice words to another, we must take to heart that what we are saying is a true expression of ourselves. Don’t’ say it unless you mean it. Because when we give our word, it forms our character and when we don’t keep our word those words can leave us with a reputation of being a man or woman, not of their word. There was one person that walked this earth who was a woman of her word to me, my Mother. What she said, she meant, every word. Now I praise those who are people of their word, for them I have the highest regard. It makes me sad when someone gives me their word and do not hold to it. Just maybe someday there will be another who like my Mother, will give me their word and keep it. I love and miss you Mom. You told me not to forget that you love me, well Mom, you have my word, I will never ever forget those 3 words.. I love you.

Pretty Picture


You recall the other day how I posted a picture of the river still like glass, when I was on my morning walk. At just how beautiful it was, how the trees along the shore like reflected in the water and even the clear blue sky. When things are at a place in our lives, our inner beauty reflects like that to everything and everyone else in our lives. Only as long as we are at peace to feel and calm to listen .

But when we allow other elements like the winds and rains break that peace in our lives by stirring up our waters, things are not as clear anymore. So we get caught up in a current, going round and round, pulling all the negatives close to our being, stirring up all the dirt and muck, making it hard for us to see clearly.

We at that time need to be still! Till the waters calm again, Breath to settle the rapid currents. If we don’t take that time to calm, our lives will always be like we’re caught up in the fury of rapids, pulling us up and down, tossing and turning, hitting wrongs on the way down, causing breaks and bruises. You have to grab hold of something  that is reaching out, what could be a branch of a tree along the shore is our Higher Power in our daily lives. HE will always be there on the shore, with his hand extended, however it is up to us to grab hold.