Giving Thanks

It is Thanksgiving weekend here in Ontario Canada. I enjoy reading on social media what my friends and family are thankful for. Pretty much all of them mention, their love for and from other loved ones.

For myself, of course, there is the love for and from my family and friends and running third is my ability to still live a life, to a great degree, that brings me happiness. I love learning, by experience, reading, writing, researching, understanding the human life and lives. I do hate racism, disrespect, abuse, especially child abuse and even try to understand, why anyone can be like that, do those things to other human beings, especially our children. I love reading about, how to lead a better life through inspiration of others, by reaching a peace of mind with regards to anything I do or say.

After living through a few health challenges, physically, I had to strengthen my self, mentally and emotionally, so now,  I live in the moment and cherish every moment I am given. I love too hard at times and forgive to easily. But my love is genuine.

This year I am thankful for being, still, on this earth and will always try to live my day, like it is my last. I made a promise once, which I have never shared with anyone and  may the Creator give me the strength to continue to hold true to that.

thanks for reading this blog post.


#thankful #life #familyandfriends #inspire


Hold Your Tongue!


I find as I age, I am maturing. ha! 😉 Actually I am learning. still! And I love what I am learning.
Learning that, I don’t always have to be ready to attack, as soon as anyone says something I don’t like or agree with.
Because I need and want to learn. When I don’t take the time to listen to another person, it is removing their ability to think and
express themselves, an attack of, freedom Of speech. I love this freedom I have acquired over the past 11 years and the greatest part of that freedom is feeling comfortable in my own space and learning from what others do and say. I need to handle
any opposing view, not to be so thin skinned and realize that some one elses point of view is also, not an attack
against me, but an expression of who they are, at that point in their lives. I love that I found a person I can listen to for hours and enjoy listening to.
Being powerful and wise is part of maturing. If we can’t handle some one disagreeing with us, well, the path we are on
is only going to get rougher, because education comes in many forms, not just in a classroom. Developing our own personal codes to live by, then those that love us, should respect and uphold them in our presence.
One blogger said,
“If you want freedom to speak, you must be willing to give it and defend it for others. We can’t just cherry pick what we want to know and ignore the rest.”
There is so much free education in this world, through the world wide web, through libraries, through the people you surround yourself with. Again it is about being thick skinned and not so immature that we get all our panties in a bunch when some one says something we don’t agree with.
” Life is not always beautiful, life can be so unkind to you and others. And unless you are willing to life in harmony and balance with those difficult moments, you are not living in the world around you or able to harness the energies of the world around you.” – P.P.

“I wish you a harmonious weekend! May the Creator bless you with lovely moments that turn into beautiful memories. Take the time today to call or visit your parents, if you are lucky enough to have them still on this earth. And if your parents have passed over, like mine, put your hand over your heart, close your eyes and say, I love you Mom/Dad… knowing that heart beat was given to you by them the day you were born.. for you are their blessing. Love you Mom and Dad into eternity.”











My Defeat:Life

I haven’t written poetry in awhile. Here is my renewed kick of the cat!


How can I hate life?

When without it

there is no tomorrows!

How can I wish I was


For if I was, I would

not be alive!

How can I cry

like there is no tomorrow?

For yesterday is gone

And those tomorrows never come!

If love means I am alive?

Where is the sweetness that

comes with it?

Just let me sleep, let me close

my eyes…

then if I die before I wake..please…

..there is no blame..I will be in the shadows..

No more suffering:

..hidden behind my defeat:Life

❄ Snowy Impressions


#mentalhealth #depression #sadlife #judgement #suffering #painandsuffering #love #hate

It’s All Mine

The greatest thing I learnt after almost 2 years of being counselled was,

“It is my life and every chapter of it can never be, seen, felt, heard, experienced by anyone with such precision and honesty than by me. Stay true to who I am and love who I have become in my book of life!” ~ Cynthia S.

#lovethyself  #selfworth #honesty #lifeasIfeelit #experience


Comfort Food

Coming from a large family, mom, dad and 11 children, one thing I know how to cook is, comfort food!

Being a Mother of 11 children, Mom had to cook economically and I think that is the main word behind comfort food. It seems to always be food that is easy to make, usually ingredients we have in the pantry and you can make lots of it. Yum.

I was thinking of and missing mom’s home cooking earlier today and I think this week I am going to cook up a pot of her, hamburger, tomato soup, along with dad’s fried Indian scone. .. dessert will be that warm scone with a fresh jam smothering it.

Oh here goes my diet!.. Guilty pleasures!

What is your comfort food?

#comfortfood #homemade #soup #scone #bigfamily


What Is Dysfunctional?

Having worked in the addictions field, one word a person hears a lot is, dysfunctional. Which leads many, I find, to think, dysfunctional relates only to the world of addicts. And I have heard many deny they may be dysfunctional because there was no addiction tendencies in the family. People are not born dysfunctional, we are raised in dysfunctional surroundings. And as much as we may want to deny it, the air we were raised in at times for many is, toxic air. We all have our tolerance levels and the good thing is when we do realize things are not as they should be, when living in a toxic world and start leading lives in such a way.



I read a lot, always have. Not just the harlequin romance novels, but self help and a lot about the human conditions. Whether I am told my thoughts are wrong or to prove to myself, my thoughts are right, I get myself educated on many topics.

Dysfunctional traits come from a few traits and for those who are not living in the addiction life, it comes from.. fear… guilt and shame. When we don’t seek out the help to heal those 3 things, we live a numb life, in denial… dysfunctional!

One can only hope this post hits home in a positive way, that one person wants to seek out professional help, so they can lead a full functional life. After all, this is it.. there is not other life on earth after this one. It is what it is.. over. Live love and be happy!

We ALL Screw Up At Times!

One thing I have learnt late in life, is that I don’t know… imagine that eh? But seriously, over the past 13 years, I have learnt when something does not seem right, mentally, emotionally and spiritually in my life, I start reading on how to deal with what is bothering me and will at times, get professional help when I can’t figure it out on my own. Doing it this way has taught me a lot of tolerance for events, past and present and with a lot of people in my life. We don’t stop learning at 16, 26, 46 or 66 years of age. There is always something that comes up, at times, may knock the wind out of our sails and learning how to deal with these things the first time, makes the next time, not so traumatizing or unmanageable.

Maybe that is what’s wrong with our young people, who seem to be so out of control these days? Are we not listening to them or taking note of their actions that should be sending us red flags? Are we living such a fast pace life that we just don’t take the time to listen and see what is unfolding before us?

We take the time to go to the dentist when we have a toothache, we go to the doctor when we feel like crap physically, how come we don’t take care of our mental health when we are in a rough state and things just seem to be getting worse, that it can literally rock our world in a not so good way?

I hate stress, mental stress, so when I am confronted with it, I can and tend to run the other way.. there is that fight or flight thing happening. So my new homework is to learn to deal with confrontation in a positive way, for myself. No one can change anyone, we all have to want to change.

Life is short, there has to be something or someone in our lives that is worth living for while we are evolving even into our golden years, that is worth the fight?

(jumps off her soapbox)



#mentalhealth, #healthylife, #love, #life