Shift – More Than A Keyboard Button

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Funny how times goes by, with each new sun rise and sun set, unknowingly at times, there are small changes happening in our lives. If you are in a good place in your life, those slight shifts may go unnoticed or if we take for granted the good place we are in our lives, there may be a shift that we are not so happy with. The shifting universe will shake things up from time to time to get your attention, where it is lacking. Just believe it is all for the betterment of your own self and maybe we will stop asking, “why me?” when a shift does happen. Why not you? Why not me? We really need to complain less, stop spending time on the pity pot and make changes for the better on our own time, before the universe says.. “Oh, he/she needs a slight shift in their life.”
I know many of you think I am a nut bar, but that’s okay. I’m a happy sweet nut bar..lol. There was a great amount of time in my life where what other people thought of me, was a great fear of mine, where everything I did, I wondered if I was doing right and in the process of pleasing everyone else, I forgot or maybe never knew how to take care of my own needs first… then there was a shift…that shift was so hard, I was thrown against all 4 walls and no, they were not padded walls. ;), well okay, one was..lol..But today, the shifts in my life are gentle ones. I like being around people who have compassion, witty, know how to laugh at themselves, can listen and respond, be honest and most of all, not judge me harshly or at all. Hey, no one is perfect.
If you stop and really look at your life, you will see the shifts. Like things you once found intolerable, you are now tolerating. Times when you were quiet, not wanting to stir the pot, you are now, speaking aloud the truth for the good, but the greatest shift in your life is when, you realize there are situations and people in your life that do not need your attention, time, energy and focus.
Enjoy the shift.. hopefully you won’t be hitting too many walls with each shift the universe grants you.
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Mature Love As The Snow Flies

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The only thing I love about winter is watching the snow fall. It always inspired me, deeply. This morning I have been thinking a lot..lol.. it is my favorite past time… thinking, writing and of course loving. So many loves, grand baby love, my children love, family love, friendship love and 2nd to none, my Man love.. xx.. I like to think we have a mature love And, I don’t think Mature Love has anything to do with age. I think it has to do with, experience. We both have the integrity to be alone, which is being honest and whole together and apart. We both give without strings and grateful for that because we have different giving strengths. It is a love that when apart, our alone times does not destroy togetherness, in fact it enhances it. Yes, the first day or 2, I miss him so much, but on the 3rd day, I smile because I look forward to being together again. We help each other become more free. There is no effort given to dominating each other, we actually hop past that thinking, because it can become a sort of hatred and anger. We were individuals when we met and that is who we each fell in love with, so why not encourage that time alone, that individuality, which leaves so much more room to grow, alone and together. Who knows, there may be a day down the road where we will want to be in each others space so much more, but I think again, we are mature enough, that does not mean to smoother each other… respect, understanding and truly listening.. in one word.. Communication!

New Year Detachment

Accepting What We Cannot Change: Is more than just line in the Serenity Prayer.

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,

Courage to change the things I can,

And wisdom to know the difference.

For myself, it was learning about DETACHMENT.

I had to take a 2nd glance one day at a person I use to know, in the mall, because that person was not recognizable to me for those few moments. Then when I realized who it was, I felt the oddest feeling. I asked my counsellor what happened..apparently , I had detached from that person, in mind, body and spirit..finally! Now I can avoid without guilt, one way or another. Here is what I learnt and what I felt…

Detachment is like a deep breath of peace and forgiveness at the same time, which totally makes sense to me now. It is the ability of talking about with ease, that which at some point brought me pain of heart and tears. It is learning to forgive myself for the roll I played in my own dysfunction at one point in my life and gaining the strength I need to move forward, to start afresh! What a great release it was! Freeing myself to lead my life as I wanted..with grace!

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I LOVE THIS!!

Life does not have a purpose other than Life itself. The purpose of what IS… is to BE. BEING is the most basic and ultimate purpose at the same time. In the human world, a purpose is something different than what IS. It is an ideal of what “should be.” Life does not bring any […]

via Peeling the layers of “Reality.” — Exploring the Depth of Living

DOLLAR STORE DEBATES

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Its getting worse by the minute..I went to pick up a few gifts at the dollar store..(lmao)..at the checkout I scanned my buggy, figured I had bout 30-35 items..should total around 40 to 46 bux..wrong! $70 freakin dollars!!!..You know the cost of living is going up when a dollar costs you 3 dollars eh.. But anyways, I was kind of amused as I was looking at something in one aisle and could hear 2 men over in the next aisle talking religion. They were reciting verses from a bible and one saying he believes the world is about to end because it says so in the bible and he quoted verses that verified that.. Jeez, I thought, what a conversation for a youngster to catch hold of. A poor child will be traumatized! As I come around the corner they kept talking bible quotes, looked at me, smiled and shuffled to the right. It took everything for me not to say..”cmon get out of the way! I need to get home and call my family, cause the worlds going to end! I heard it at the dollar store!!” If there is one thing I have learnt in my years, it is that the journey does heavily outweigh the destination. People are so worried about tomorrow that they forget to live today! This exact moment is all you have. We can achieve more when it comes to living long and healthy lives..put one foot in front of the other. I can say without a doubt, there is a beautiful serenity when we live life slowly and one day at a time. We seem to always be waiting for miracles, not realizing each day we wake is a miracle. In 2009 when I had my heart attack and was in ICU for 4 days..mad yet scared, crying and praying, telling staff I did not want to see anyone but my children, I made a vow that, if the Creator helped me thru that trial, to live more years on this earth, Not a day would go by that I would in some way, some how inspire at least one person, even if all I had to give was a smile.. I would..I promise. So for myself, I dont care to be around negativity or hear such things like the world is ending, cause they read it in a bible. Get out, make some one elses day! And you will be surprised at the reward when you do. You may have saved one life instead of dwelling on lives ending! This is why I began reading about Wicca..its all about living a healthy life, appreciating exactly what is in front of you..a changing world..nothing stays the same..nothing and no one! My religion is nature and I can prove it exists..lol Dont weigh down your heart and soul..release..manifest..enjoy the moment!!.. Now back to gift buying. I think I seen a Dollar Tree store at the outskirts of town? (wink)
PS: I am not bashing religion, I am preaching about living.

When Our Expectations Become A Priority..

Two quotes with regards to this blog thought.

“When you release expectations you are free to enjoy things for what they are instead of what you think they should be.”- MH

“You may not be a priority in my life, but you will always matter.”-CS

 

I believe how we say things to other people in our lives may not always be interpeted as we wished them to be. But, our actions always will. We can talk love, honour and respect, till we are blue in them face, then turn around and with one stab in the back action, literally kill every word we spoke.

For myself, this is what I call, speaking from both sides of one’s mouth..all the pretty words flow freely from one side and septic thoughts spew from the other.

For this past half decade of my life I have witnessed and been on the recieving end of both and today can laugh. I have learnt not to have expectations of others and for my life to be truly happy, it is me, myself and I who have become the priority of it. Yes, I do have one rule I live by…my time and effort must be matched in any relationship..family or friend. When it is not, I use my free will to walk away.

Do you have great expectations of others and make someone else a priority in your life?

P.S. As children my children were priority. Thats a given. Then they grew up.. Plot twist!!