The Family Unit

I read and read, over and over, regarding any subject on any given day. But the one subject that always comes to the forefront of my mind, is family. When you come from a large family, one can not help but think about what position we all play to keep the family together in a complete unit.
I will never understand everyone’s position at times on different subjects but I do think when it comes to support or need, a family should and must be there, unconditionally for each other. Yes, I know there will be those who disagree with that, but giving support to each other does not mean, giving control to another. We can support without control. Support is done without expecting anything in return, control is down with one sided expectations. There lies the damage done.

From the king James version to the new American standard 1977 plus more bibles, it is written with regards to ..’family’

“If anyone doesn’t take care of his own relatives, especially his immediate family, he has denied the Christian faith and is worse than an unbeliever.”
The family is created with the love of the Creator. Marriage within the house of the Creator, church or common-law between man and woman is essential for His eternal plan. Children are entitled to birth and to be reared by a father and a mother who honour each others position, as father, as mother, with complete fidelity when coupled. Happiness in family life is most likely to be achieved when founded upon the teachings of the Creator, which is set on a stone of RESPECT.

A family that is happy 80% of the time, is maintained on principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities, such as gatherings over a feast, outdoor activities, away from all forms of media, which is getting back to basics, enjoying the simple things in life with each other whenever possible..
For the most part, whether together or apart, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners when it comes to the rearing of the children they brought into this world. Disability, death, or other circumstances may change needs for individuals at times, but all family and extended families should lend support when needed.
It is warned in the bible, by Creator, over and over, that individuals, who abuse spouse(S) or offspring, or who fail to fulfill family responsibilities will one day stand accountable before the Creator.
We all must not sit in silence with it comes to holding every citizen, and officers of government responsible to promote respect first and foremost and take the measures needed to maintain and strengthen the family as the greater unit of society.
Because once the family begins to break apart, what else is there?f2c864bf77e99be97732019f5179058c

Who Are Those People Standing There??


Those are the people who will always be there, for you. As you go threw life, all the ups and most importantly, all the downs, those are the people who will be there for you. They will embrace you tight and wish you well, at the grandest of times, without hesitation of jealousy or envy, they are happy for you. They are the people who will acknowledge your pain, whether it is physical, mental or emotional, at the worst of times and embrace you just to say, they are there for you. There is an assortment of people under the family umbrella, just know that the one who is real family is the one that won’t matter if you are a blood relative or not, these people will be who you naturally are, family. You will find one left standing when they others walk away holding the umbrella high over their heads. True family or friend will weather the storm with you, hold your hand and validate you. Remember, anyone can assume their position in your life on the tree of unconditional love, but few will climb that tree to stay nearer to you, to be there in case you fall, again and again. There will be no judgement, no questions, just family, made especially for you by the Creator

The Family Is Divine in Purpose!!

“God created the family, and He has divine purposes for it. Following His purposes for marriage and family life gives us the best opportunities for family fulfillment.” – 1 Timothy 5:8

But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith, denied the Creator and is worse than an unbeliever.

“Honesty and courage about acknowledging your faults will encourage others in the family both to understand you better and to talk freely about their shortcomings. In this sharing, we learn to love and help each other more beautifully than in a “closed circuit” situation. In Ephesians 4, we are exhorted to “be kind one to another, tender hearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you Part of forgiveness, and part of genuine dialogue involves acceptance. The Father of the prodigal son accepted his boy completely, compassionately, joyfully. He expressed unconditional love. In true family dialogue, we do not expect perfection in the other, even as we know we are not perfect. Rather, we receive the other with sympathy and unconditional love. When a person finds that he is accepted, he is able to grow into an increasingly meaningful and strengthening dialogue.

So do not allow a wall to be built inside your house. Share your real feelings. Share your burdens. Share your needs. And share the emotions and burdens of everyone in your family. In doing so, you will build a family circle which cannot be broken.” –

Hold closer those we call, family. They are the ones doing the work appointed to them by the Creator, as HE sees fit.

I AM Proud


I have been on a spiritual path for 11 years now. I did not know till I was a teen that I am half ojibway native on Dads side and half French from Moms side.

My father did not talk about being a native man when I was growing up, I did not see, as a child, single out, a native child in the neighbourhood. As a child, to me, we were just all people. I did not know what my father went through as a native child in northern Ontario Canada.

One day, still in my teen years, he presented me with a laminated card that stated I was a native in the eyes of the Canadian government. When I asked him what was the card for, all he said, was, if you want a higher education or need medication, it will be covered. He told me that I was going to sit before a group of native people on the First Nation and asked questions about what I want from this firstt nations and what could I bring to the reservation. I recall that day very clear, still not clear on what I was doing there or what was about to happen. I was brought into a room with a large table and there were native elders sitting around that table. With quiet voices, I was spoken to in what was the ojibway language, I was asked questions, in the language. There was an English speaking person who repeated the questions quietly to me and I answered what I thought was right answers. I was lost.

For years, to my knowledge I belonged to the reservation according to Dad, cause that is where he and his father come from.

At that time in my life, I did not feel any different or did not know if I was, because I was not talked to about my heritage by anyone on Dads side, nor did we participate in any FN events. I was lost.

11 years ago, I started a spiritual path and I found a lot of the native teachings were working for me. I learnt the majority at a place I worked at, I started to understand but knew there was so much still to learn.

So with each new thing I learnt, I shared through out my writings. The beliefs got me through so much hardships over the years and I began to feel like I was an ojibway man’s daughter. I was and am proud to be my fathers daughter. But life is funny, recently I am questioning my faith once again. And it was more evident when I was told I am half breed, and that my French heritage seemed stronger than my native heritage.

I have always seen my native heritage as being the kinder part of myself, it is the spiritual part that made me feel whole.

I don’t know if I would be alive today if it were not for my native spiritual self.

I gained a new respect for my father, I began to understand who is was as a child many years ago to the adult he grew to be.

I may not speak the ojibway language or live on a first nations community, yet I try to respect the teachings when I am presented with them.

There is a bit of a tug of war going on within me now that I was called a half breed, but again, that is just a label.. I am me, I am a child of the Creator, I am my fathers daughter at the end of the day and no matter who may criticize the native man, woman or child, there is no one that can take away, who they are, who I am, mind, body, soul and spirit.. I shall feed my wonder, my inner peace with the grace of the Creator, as He sees fit.


Behold! You’re Beautiful!



The first thing when connecting to another human being will be the sense of vision. With many, that is the trait they will judge another on. Men are known to have a strong sense of vision and a lot of times let it over-ride their common sense, more so than women. I won’t use my own first instinct, I tend to dig deeper with people I just meet and even with people I may have known for any amount of time. I will be one of the first ones, that will say, “But, you don’t even know me.”, when another person makes a quick judgement call about me, good or bad, based on my smile and a pancake. ;)

In this world of social media, vision is pretty much what we all tend to LIKE about someone. And that is fine, but the next person on any list who may not be visually attracting will not get the LIKES. When myself or another person will know what type of character/personality, that photogenic person has and if some really knew, they would be disgusted, yet the not so visually appealing person still feels, if not more, just not so beautiful or handsom, because they are basing their beauty on a LIKE system. That makes me sad. So I like to uplift, empower and praise the not so popular young people, male or females in my world. They will be the warriors, the strong, and have the greatest empathy for others, based on their own life experiences.

Yes, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but it is so much more than that.. A persons true beauty is deep, is spiritual, is in all the things they do, and how they treat the other people in the world around them. That is beautiful!





I attended a workshop many moons ago with 3 others in Toronto. The workshop was all about listening, pride and humility amongst the indigenous peoples. I walked away from that workshop with a new sight, not only because of the hours spent listening and learning how to really listen to others, but I learnt from others who were there for the same reason as I was. It was almost like this one man was planted within our group of 20, as part of the assignment. He boasted a lot about who he was and what he did, back in his community and where he stood on a greater level as a member of that community. I sat and I listened to this gent, this indigenous man, with the long hair talk about how he lead sunrise ceremonies, how he lead his people during a powwow, how he was a pipe carrier. He could not talk enough about the role he played within his community.

I did not know at the time, one of my fellow co-workers stood close by, could hear the conversation, the one sided conversation between myself and this gent. Once I walked away from him, I felt kind of overwhelmed by what had just occurred and the first thing that come to mind was, is this man trying to impress me? That evening over dinner, my 3 work mates and myself talked about our day, when it was my turn, I told them about the talking circle I participated in, how it was, what I felt like and then I told them about the man who was boasting regarding himself, back in his community.

The one co-worker that overheard the chat earlier that day, said. Any man who has a great role within his community, does not boast the way that man did with you Cynthia. A man will wait to be asked and even then be hesitant about his talents, his abilities, about all that is sacred within the culture. That evening, I listened again and I learnt a lot. There has been since that workshop, people, men and women that I have met up with who boast a lot, brag a lot about who they are and the role they play in this world, the world around them personally. I went in search of humility and the indigenous peoples for my morning coffee read and I came upon a great article with regards to the Atchiksualiq peoples of Alaska.

I don’t see the harm in all peoples practicing this.

The information below is from that article and the thoughts of certain contributors to the

Alaska Native Knowledge Network

a the University of Alaska Fairbanks and Submitted by Asiqluq on Tue, 02/25/2014


Humility is a good quality to have, especially for the Inupiat. It helps them recognize their place in the world.

In the past, humility played an important role in the Inupiaq culture. People who put themselves above others were not working for the good of all.

Long ago, people lived in small cabins, sod houses or temporary shelters. It was important that people got along and did not brag or were too proud. Humility is important in today’s Inupiat culture because the environment hasn’t changed much over the decade. It is still important that our Inupiat people recognize and respect their place in this world.

Eric Gooden
9th grade



When we were young, being humble was taught to all the young. We were taught never to boast about anything. But in this day and age, you hear people boasting about themselves.

Somewhere along the line, we lost our Inupiaq value about being humble. The chain was broken, so to speak. The person who isn’t humble doesn’t have any friends.

Our Elders were a good example for us. No matter how old they are they never say, I’m too tired,” or “I’m too old.” It seems the Elders appreciate everything around them where the younger generation does not.

We need to start showing the children about humility again. Atchiksauqta. . .let’s be humble



His father then cautioned him that that kind of feat was something a person didn’t talk about to other people. You just quietly appreciate your abilities but not talk about them. You never know what some jealous person might do to cripple such a talented person. Better to keep quiet about it but know within the family what your own capabilities are in an emergency.

Besides personal capabilities, people didn’t talk about their own accomplishments. I think that’s one of the reasons why our people have a hard time expressing themselves in job interviews. They are not used to “selling” themselves. Usually another person will talk about a person’s accomplishments and wonderful capabilities. An Inupiaq didn’t do this for himself. But, if someone who knows of his capabilities asks him to do something, the person must show respect to the requester and comply, giving his best efforts. This is also probably why few people will volunteer their services but will comply with appointments.

Another area where the Inupiat were strict about expressing humility was in regard to the animals and birds. No one boasted that he would get X number of animals or birds when he went hunting. Because the animals had spirits, they could “hear” the person’s boastful pride and perceive his negative feelings toward others and stay away from his hunting environment.

Hunters must approach their hunting with the best of feelings toward each other and the wildlife they are hunting. There must be harmony of feelings.

Some years ago, when the International Whaling Commission decided to ban bowhead whale hunting in Alaska, there was a lot of hard talking and discussion about the whales. A small quota was eventually established to give the Natives an opportunity to harvest some whales. But the hunters felt the number was insufficient and so they made a lot of to-do about it. The next season, not a single whale was caught.

The women then reminded the hunters that we are not supposed to fight over animals because they can hear us.

Personally, I think that until the hunters can get together and plan a strategy of hunting together in harmony, there will be no beluga to be had. That’s the way it’s been from time immemorial and it has not changed. Animals are still the same. You can’t fight over them if you want to enjoy them.

The old Inupiat teach us that sooner or later a boastful person gets an opportunity to fulfill his boasting. Most of the time he gets to eat a lot of humble pie. The old Inupiat teach us it is better to keep quiet about our super capabilities because sooner or later people will find out about them without our saying so. Then they can tell the whole world how wonderful we are!

Elder Rachel Craig


Crossing bridges & smelling roses along the way……


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