The only thing I love about winter is watching the snow fall. It always inspired me, deeply. This morning I have been thinking a lot..lol.. it is my favorite past time… thinking, writing and of course loving. So many loves, grand baby love, my children love, family love, friendship love and 2nd to none, my Man love.. xx.. I like to think we have a mature love And, I don’t think Mature Love has anything to do with age. I think it has to do with, experience. We both have the integrity to be alone, which is being honest and whole together and apart. We both give without strings and grateful for that because we have different giving strengths. It is a love that when apart, our alone times does not destroy togetherness, in fact it enhances it. Yes, the first day or 2, I miss him so much, but on the 3rd day, I smile because I look forward to being together again. We help each other become more free. There is no effort given to dominating each other, we actually hop past that thinking, because it can become a sort of hatred and anger. We were individuals when we met and that is who we each fell in love with, so why not encourage that time alone, that individuality, which leaves so much more room to grow, alone and together. Who knows, there may be a day down the road where we will want to be in each others space so much more, but I think again, we are mature enough, that does not mean to smoother each other… respect, understanding and truly listening.. in one word.. Communication!
Accepting What We Cannot Change: Is more than just line in the Serenity Prayer.
“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.“
For myself, it was learning about DETACHMENT.
I had to take a 2nd glance one day at a person I use to know, in the mall, because that person was not recognizable to me for those few moments. Then when I realized who it was, I felt the oddest feeling. I asked my counsellor what happened..apparently , I had detached from that person, in mind, body and spirit..finally! Now I can avoid without guilt, one way or another. Here is what I learnt and what I felt…
Detachment is like a deep breath of peace and forgiveness at the same time, which totally makes sense to me now. It is the ability of talking about with ease, that which at some point brought me pain of heart and tears. It is learning to forgive myself for the roll I played in my own dysfunction at one point in my life and gaining the strength I need to move forward, to start afresh! What a great release it was! Freeing myself to lead my life as I wanted..with grace!
Life does not have a purpose other than Life itself. The purpose of what IS… is to BE. BEING is the most basic and ultimate purpose at the same time. In the human world, a purpose is something different than what IS. It is an ideal of what “should be.” Life does not bring any […]
Got a notice today from WordPress..already my 8th year of blogging with WordPress.
I love wtiting and love WordPress as a blogging site..so user friendly which is important for me.
Happy 8Th Anniversary to me!!!
Two quotes with regards to this blog thought.
“When you release expectations you are free to enjoy things for what they are instead of what you think they should be.”- MH
“You may not be a priority in my life, but you will always matter.”-CS
I believe how we say things to other people in our lives may not always be interpeted as we wished them to be. But, our actions always will. We can talk love, honour and respect, till we are blue in them face, then turn around and with one stab in the back action, literally kill every word we spoke.
For myself, this is what I call, speaking from both sides of one’s mouth..all the pretty words flow freely from one side and septic thoughts spew from the other.
For this past half decade of my life I have witnessed and been on the recieving end of both and today can laugh. I have learnt not to have expectations of others and for my life to be truly happy, it is me, myself and I who have become the priority of it. Yes, I do have one rule I live by…my time and effort must be matched in any relationship..family or friend. When it is not, I use my free will to walk away.
Do you have great expectations of others and make someone else a priority in your life?
P.S. As children my children were priority. Thats a given. Then they grew up.. Plot twist!!