Being Rewarded

Being a productive member of society is a lot of work. Yes, it does involve giving back to society in positive ways. And at times there are things or people that get in the way of you doing that. At times it can be financial burdens and woes, then other times it might just be the company you keep, that is keeping you down. As for myself, I am not on the Forbes list of millionaires and can not contribute to society that way, but I try to uplift the spirits of those around me. Yes, it takes work, because, a person themselves can not uplift, unless you are at a certain level of contentment with your own life. I can not inspire you to be happy, unless I am happy, Just like a millionaire can not give or donate money unless they have it to donate. So, where the millionaire goes out, does what he has to do to get that money to donate and live himself, a person that takes the time to inspire needs to be around people of positive influence and understanding. Like a millionaire to be makes a check list of things he/she needs to do to achieve that level of financial independence, the pros and cons lists, so does a person who wants to lead a life of inspiration, they need to succumb to a great level of inner peace. To achieve this, there is one greater thing one needs to avoid and that is toxic people. The word toxic is not directed at someone who uses foul language in this case, it is a way of being towards others around them, to others they feel intimidated by. Here is 5 traits of someone who is toxic

1. On approach they raise their nose in the air. – Meaning they look down at you, make you feel like you are less than they are.

2. They make, patronizing, snobbish, condescending comments towards you.

3. They talk about you behind your back, in a negative way, to other friends and even family members.

4. You find when you are around them, you feel like you’re walking on eggshells, afraid to say or do what they may see as wrong, leading them to come down on you with those condescending remarks.

5. When you have a new idea or a point of view, they belittle it, tell you why they think it won’t work, find anything and everything wrong with your idea.

I have been told many times that I inspire others and I have been told to inspire, one has to have gone through their own hardships to be able to feel empathy, not pity. Yes, I do pity, I pity the person who sees me as a threat, before evening talking to me, but have come to the conclusion I am a threat through the talk of someone who is toxic. There will always be toxic people around us, till the day we leave this earth. They come in the form of friends and even family and I will admit that to this day, I am still confronted with people of toxic nature, which does break my heart, especially when I am insulted before listened to. These days physically, I do not have the strength to stand up to toxic people, I have decided to avoid them, detach from them because the stress in itself can cause me more damage physically. This is my way of dealing with it, a must for me. We are all allowed to do what we feel comfortable doing when it comes to toxic people in our lives, because we are the person living the life. Do what is right for you, but at the end of the day, I hope and pray it is a decision that brings a smile to your face and a restful nights sleep.

So, take the time to give to soceity, at what ever level you can, and even not expecting something in return, still, it will come back to you 10 folds and if its 10 smiles or 10 thousand dollars, hey a reward is a reward, right?

 

Facebook Sandbox

rant

Social networking and face book being one of many sites that offer it’s community members the ability to share common interests in hobbies, religion, or politics. Once you are granted access to a friend or family or groups page, you can begin to socialize. This socialization may include reading the profile pages of other members, discussing them, seeing those likes and dislikes and possibly even contacting them if they allow that. In doing so, we learn social skills.
The friends that you can make are just one of the many benefits to social networking online You can make friends from all around the world. Not only will you make new friends, but you just might learn a thing or two about new cultures or new languages and learning is always a good thing. And then there is the use of the network to stay in touch with close friends and family ONLY, yet even then, depending who they are, we can learn something from them. Maybe they live far away or lead a different life among other things.

It does not matter at the end of the day who you have on a friends list or why you’re on face book or any social networking site, we CAN NOT treat others with disrespect and should not. Not because I say so or because the site don’t allow it, how about because it is morally wrong?

Myself and I am sure many others have witnessed how even children are crossing lines and how they think it is socially acceptable to carry on at times with their group of friends in such a way that we know if we were in the same room with them in person, there would be no way the same attitude would be shown. I praise a family member for his choice of discipline after seeing such behaviour on his sons wall, banning him from face book and I am sure there is other disciplinary actions taken in the home. I also praise him for being an adult about it and not a psychopath by taking a gun out to prove a point. But I won’t go there.

I think what we do as adults whether at home, in public and online in a social network, will always show our children what is and what is not acceptable. And it is up to us as parents to guide them in a world that , yes at times can be hard to live in and or understand.

Social networking is not just online, we do it in a few ways, many ways, each and every day, whatever age we are, whether we are in grade school, high school, college and university, whether we are working at the mall, in an office or manual labour, whether we are attending a gathering, birthday parties, concerts, even family dinners, whether we are walking down main street or passing another person in the grocery store line-up.. Each and every day, each and every one of us is social networking and no matter where, when or with who we are doing that along side, the first rule of thumb is and will always be, RESPECT each other and each others space, where ever that is in this world, no matter what another persons, race, colour or religion is. Yes, express our uniqueness, Yes, learn from each others differences. We are here on this planet to learn and to teach. So at the end of the day, if we can be happy with what we learnt, appreciate it or be happy for what we may have taught, lets hope that what ever it was we did it with respect to the other person.

I belong to a couple networks and face book is the one which gets the most votes for how people are not respecting the limits of their account it self or respecting the boundaries of family and friends. We have slipped off the track and if we don’t get back on with regards, we can see the damage that can be caused on the news at 6.

Enjoy the world social network playground, in this case the, face book sandbox, play by the rules, but again most importantly, play with RESPECT!

To Speak Or Not To Speak?

A Spiritual Teacher told me a couple years ago..

”Be weary of those who speak from both sides of their mouths. Words can be lies and actions can be truths.”

This is so true and I think we all have experienced such a person in our lives at least once. We can not take such people personally, for their actions are their own burdens to carry, their lessons to learn from and it may take many lessons before they learn, as that burden weighs them down.

Here is a portion of a write up I found with regards ..Taken from blifaloo.com

• Physical expression will be limited and stiff, with few arm and hand movements. Hand, arm and leg movement are toward their own body the liar takes up less space.

• A person who is lying to you will avoid making eye contact.

• Hands touching their face, throat & mouth. Touching or scratching the nose or behind their ear. Not likely to touch his chest/heart with an open hand.

• Timing and duration of emotional gestures and emotions are off a normal pace. The display of emotion is delayed, stays longer it would naturally, then stops suddenly.

• Timing is off between emotions gestures/expressions and words. Example: Someone says “I love it!” when receiving a gift, and then smile after making that statement, rather then at the same time the statement is made.

• Gestures/expressions don’t match the verbal statement, such as frowning when saying “I love you.”

• Expressions are limited to mouth movements when someone is faking emotions (like happy, surprised, sad, awe, )instead of the whole face. For example; when someone smiles naturally their whole face is involved: jaw/cheek movement, eyes and forehead push down, etc.

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Obviously, just because someone exhibits one or more of these signs does not make them a liar. The above behaviors should be compared to a persons base (normal) behavior whenever possible.

Tell the liar that he/she only has a single option. This is done by suggesting that ONLY TRUTH will save any remains of the friendship, or that the friendship will be lost forever when the truth reveals itself by other means.