A Lost Art?

” If you give it some thought, the best times and memories in our lives have involved face to face conversations, which took precious time. Whether it was looking into your child’s eyes and they looked into yours when you said, “I love you” to each other. That magikal moment when in a conversation with a special person sitting across from you, the realization that you love them, came to light. The times when you talked with a good friend over a coffee, realizing how much you miss hearing their laughter… I miss hearing you and the sound of your voice.. she texted” – Snowy Impressions

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I Think I Am Addicted To Solitude!

Yes, this is probably 90% the reason why I am still single. Sad but true. I truly believe like any addiction, that I may want it more than I need it and pretty much do what I need to, to keep it… my Solitude.
Are you, am I addicted to Solitude?
1. Ask yourself if you are addicted to Solitude.
2. Starting the day wishing you had someone special in your life & thankful at the end of the day you have no one.
3.When You Spend Way Too Much time obtaining solitude, being embroiled in the behaviors of , or recovering from your addictive behavior.
4.When the intensity or frequency of being alone has increased in order for you to get the desired effect of solitude.
5.Feel totally resentful that others may get to engage in solitude and that couple status at the same time when you cannot.
6. When you are with someone, all you can think about is being alone.
7.If you are blaming your need to be alone or behavior on other people or circumstances.
8.If the behavior of wanting to be alone is causing problems in your life. Such as leaving a gathering with many to go home and enjoy solitude.
~ You or I, just may be addicted to Solitude!

By Snowy Impressions

Wanting More In A Relationship

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I do believe I have said this before, a few times, I get the greatest enhancement in life when I am in discussions with others around me, whether it be with one person or a dozen. I come to realize just how much this pleases me when I attended a workshop in Toronto a few years back. On this particular day there was approximately 20 people attending and we were asked to set our chairs in a circle before we sat on them, then we were told by our guide of the day, it was a talking circle, where a feather is passed around the circle and the holder of the feather can vocalize their thoughts on any subject without interference. Yes, this is one of my cultural practices, talking circles, peacemaking circles, or healing circles are deeply rooted in the traditional practices of the indigenous peoples. When we are amongst friends, we don’t need to be holding a feather to get the respect of being listened to when talking, it is what good friends do, listen.
So we listen and we learn, which always leads me to defining a certain outlook on any subject and understanding it even though I may not agree with it.

One subject that has come up many times in the past few years is, settling, whether it be in a relationship we are currently in or not settling for anything but the perfect relationship when we are single and looking.
I wonder how much attraction we need to another person to be satisfied that it is the right relationship for us? I don’t care for the word, settling, I find it leaves the one, a person decides to stay with as a partner, mediocre and not going to be a relationship of abundance or one that makes us fully happy, with the relationship or ourselves as a person. And what about the person who says they will always want more?

That scares me also. I don’t think I want to be with someone who is always wanting more. If we spend our time looking for the perfect partner, the one that fits just right in each of those labelled pockets we have made, well, I don’t think we’re ever going to find the perfect partner. We’re always going to be dissatisfied; our attitude is always going to make us unhappy. And relationships driven by this type of attitude is self destructive. The perfect partner is a myth, a fairy tale and the chances of it ever happening are pretty much a big zero.

So, then I think, what do we look for in a partner, whether we are single and looking or in a long term relationship, how do we grow as a couple at the same time not loose ourselves in it?
Acceptance is the word that comes to mind for me,

Accepting of our partners short comings, not expecting every day to be a day of laying in a bed of roses eating bon bons, that there will be days we feel more of the thorns and take a bite of a bad fruit, but we learn how to cope with the bad, together. We stop looking for perfection because that only will lead us to the door of disappointment. There will be days, we burn the roast, there will be days the intimate relations was better for one and not the other, to name a couple mishaps in any relationship. Yet we learn to live one day at a time but at the same time realizing that each and every one of us deserves to be happy and we need to be happy for each other, whether together or apart. No one likes to see couples part ways, especially the two that make the couple.. Just keep in mind.. No one is perfect.