Because I Can Feel The Need

When I Need You By – Leo Sayer

When I need you
I just close my eyes and I’m with you
And all that I so want to give you
It’s only a heartbeat away
When I need love
I hold out my hands and I touch love
I never knew there was so much love
Keeping me warm night and day
Miles and miles of empty space in between us
The telephone can’t take the place of your smile
But you know I won’t be travelin’ forever
It’s cold out but hold out and do I like I do
When I need you
I just close my eyes and I’m with you
And all that I so want to give you babe
It’s only a heartbeat away
It’s not easy when the road is your driver
Honey that’s a heavy load that we bear
But you know I won’t be travelin’ a lifetime
It’s cold out but hold out and do like I do
Oh, I need you
When I need love
I hold
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Valentine Vs. Single Awareness Day

Valentine Day vs Single Awareness Day.. what we see and what is actually standing before us. .. I can only speak for myself, as a single middle aged woman and be selfish by admitting the type of partner I want in my life is someone who accepts me for what I am, who I am, as much as I accept myself for those things. I am too young at heart, yet too old to perform or accept anything less. Putting ourselves out there as a single looking but not wanting to look too desperate is a challenge. It’s scary to be honest and it’s also scary to be honest….Ha!….A lot of single men and women do go out, to mingle among the masses and at times, get scared back into their comfort zones because of what they are confronted with. As a woman, you look across the room and lock eyes with the Jack Nicholson from The Shining type, which is totally freaky! Or see the shadow of an amazon type woman looking like she just jumped out of a Barbie gift box, but if we are strong enough as an independent woman, as much as intimidating the views are, we shant succumb to the fear of competition or intimidation, but laugh at it. Surely there are men who will look about a room and see the same, but in female form, the She Devil of the Shining or that woman ready to get her teeth into him like he is a fine cut steak..lol… There are those singles out there that are looking just for that, the fast and furious. Which leaves the ones just wanting a relationship that doesn’t leave you running to the door within the first 24 hours. Slow and easy, baby steps is the best. Not the attitude, well are we doing this or not!? No one likes to be pressured, especially when it comes to wanting to be vulnerable with another person. We shouldn’t read too much into what others think we need, every one has an opinion and always will. I am thinking after I file my income tax this year, Revenue Canada will probably leave a PS at the bottom of my assessment return .. “Still single Cynthia?!”.. ha!!! We are in the era of speaking out, saying exactly what we want, when we want it, instead of listening to what we are really appreciated for. Which is hard at times because we don’t want to sound over zealous either. Bah!, dammed if we don’t and dammed if we do! Just enjoy life. Get out there an mingle if you’re single! Maybe if we keep in mind, that Mr./Ms. Right isn’t going to come break into our homes looking for us, that we actually need to get out to be found, that it is the best part of the single life journey. We can’t give up!! I know I won’t, even if studies show that 9 out of 10 men prefer women with big butts ( I got no butt..lol) and the other 1 man prefers the 9 men. I will be found by the happy medium, at some point. 

12 Days 1 Valentine!

This is not a man bashing note because I know there are a few females who can be quite ignorant to the needs of the man in their life as well.
However, at some point the woman you are married to, was some one you chased like she was the prize and for those who don’t believe it, she is the prize and you apparently won!
Women are emotional creatures, again there are a lot of sensitive men as well. But I want to focus on my gender with this one, for the men in their lives that are not attentive to the woman in their lives for the most part and I don’t care what anyone says, Valentine Day, whether commercialized or not, is one day, if you are failing the other 364 days of
the year to get some big brownie points with the lady in your life.

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You have 12 days to figure out how you can show the lady in your life, just what she means to you. I am single and want that man who is sensitive to my emotional being, we love to be put on a pedestal by the man in our lives, we love those unexpected terms of endearment and heartfelt surprises. A lot of men say, “I don’t know what to get her”, really? After the length of time you have been with that woman, you don’t have any idea what would make her melt and forget the error of your ways the day before? If that is the case, then you truly are not paying attention to the person you have committed yourself to with some degree.
You have 12 days to make a plan, to figure it out. Plan a date night, one she will never forget – buy that dozen or roses, that piece of jewelry, her favorite chocolates, a spa day gift certificate and if you can not afford none of the above, spend $8.50 on a Valentine card, writing your thoughts on the blank page inside.
Do something, because when men stop feeding their lady’s emotional needs, they are most likely to go in search of some one who can provide that, Your actions as a partner can either teach her what she can live without or appreciate who she is living with.
Remember, if nothing else, a box of chocolates, flowers or any item that expresses your love and appreciation is a lot cheaper at the end of the day, than a divorce will ever be!
2 thumbs up to the men who do it regularly and women if you have that sort of man in your life that makes the effort to treat you like the gem you are to him, count your blessings!
12 days!! Happy Spouse Happy House!