Being Noticed

Did you ever hear of, Iyanla Vanzant ?, She is an American inspirational speaker, lawyer, spiritual teacher, author and life coach. I have read a couple of her books and watched her show on television a couple times. Her advice is so great and I think that is because she has lived the circumstance, learnt how to deal with it and is willing to share just how to get over life crap with her followers. One of her quotes goes something like, ‘we all want to be liked, loved and appreciated by our loves ones, family and close friends. And that is fine, what is not fine is the things we do, to get that appreciation and love.” You can’t be the only one always reaching out to others, especially if you are not being acknowledged by others as well. When people care about your part in the lives, they will reach out and ask you how you are or if there is something they can do for you or invite you to join them for something as simple as a coffee or meal. Most of us will feel bad when we are not made some kind of priority in, loved ones life, but it is all about learning, ourselves, to stop prioritizing those who don’t prioritize us. Life is so short, we need to give our time to those who value our time and vice versa. As individuals, we can not save the world or beg to be a part of any ones else’s world. You tried your best, be happy and enjoy one day at a time with those who appreciate your time and energy! Wish the others peace and love, then move forward!

 

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When Our Expectations Become A Priority..

Two quotes with regards to this blog thought.

“When you release expectations you are free to enjoy things for what they are instead of what you think they should be.”- MH

“You may not be a priority in my life, but you will always matter.”-CS

 

I believe how we say things to other people in our lives may not always be interpeted as we wished them to be. But, our actions always will. We can talk love, honour and respect, till we are blue in them face, then turn around and with one stab in the back action, literally kill every word we spoke.

For myself, this is what I call, speaking from both sides of one’s mouth..all the pretty words flow freely from one side and septic thoughts spew from the other.

For this past half decade of my life I have witnessed and been on the recieving end of both and today can laugh. I have learnt not to have expectations of others and for my life to be truly happy, it is me, myself and I who have become the priority of it. Yes, I do have one rule I live by…my time and effort must be matched in any relationship..family or friend. When it is not, I use my free will to walk away.

Do you have great expectations of others and make someone else a priority in your life?

P.S. As children my children were priority. Thats a given. Then they grew up.. Plot twist!!