HONESTLY SINGLE

One thing I have heard alot over the years of being single from people who are either in a relationship or married is, “glad I’m not single anymore! Seems like the life of dating or to find a partner sucks these days!”
Being pretty much single 10 of 13 years, that statement is fact! I don’t think you will find a “single person” over 40 yrs old say they love being single. Whether it’s a man or woman living the single life for 3 plus years, they usually have worked alot on overcoming alot of past issues in their lives and just becoming a better person all around, knowing their self worth and want to be found by that one person who can appreciate everything about them. No one is perfect and no one more than a, long term single, knows that better than many. You can not find a, single person, saying they are okay with not, cuddling another person or not having that one person to spend the rest of their life with. For myself I can be honest and will say, all I want is some one that will match the effort I bring to the relationship. Yes we all have our bad days, but we want some one in our lives that is strong enough, who loves us enough, who can cope with the bad days and show the appreciation for the great days. A long term single person doesn’t want to enter a relationship where they see more red flags than hearts. And maybe we, singles, do have a few more expectations, but again we don’t want to be the only one of the couple, making all the exceptions. The drive between two lovers should be a delight, and the journey is usually made up of no exceptions for many. I for one, won’t settle just to be with someone. There has to be chemistry. Oil and vinegar will never mix, there has to be a binder of some sort to hold it together, if not, then expect it to separate. So don’t think your single friends are too fussy or expect too much of another, we are motivated by first and foremost, knowing our worth and believing a, Mr. Right or Ms. Right is maybe just around the corner, armed with that unconditional love you happy couples brag about all the time. Until then, even in our loneliest hour we will fall asleep hugging our pillows a little tighter than most and let our faith and good old destiny play it’s roll each morning we wake up because we have come to realize the difference between an, I love you and I am IN love with you.

 

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When Our Expectations Become A Priority..

Two quotes with regards to this blog thought.

“When you release expectations you are free to enjoy things for what they are instead of what you think they should be.”- MH

“You may not be a priority in my life, but you will always matter.”-CS

 

I believe how we say things to other people in our lives may not always be interpeted as we wished them to be. But, our actions always will. We can talk love, honour and respect, till we are blue in them face, then turn around and with one stab in the back action, literally kill every word we spoke.

For myself, this is what I call, speaking from both sides of one’s mouth..all the pretty words flow freely from one side and septic thoughts spew from the other.

For this past half decade of my life I have witnessed and been on the recieving end of both and today can laugh. I have learnt not to have expectations of others and for my life to be truly happy, it is me, myself and I who have become the priority of it. Yes, I do have one rule I live by…my time and effort must be matched in any relationship..family or friend. When it is not, I use my free will to walk away.

Do you have great expectations of others and make someone else a priority in your life?

P.S. As children my children were priority. Thats a given. Then they grew up.. Plot twist!!