Valentine Day vs Single Awareness Day.. what we see and what is actually standing before us. .. I can only speak for myself, as a single middle aged woman and be selfish by admitting the type of partner I want in my life is someone who accepts me for what I am, who I am, as much as I accept myself for those things. I am too young at heart, yet too old to perform or accept anything less. Putting ourselves out there as a single looking but not wanting to look too desperate is a challenge. It’s scary to be honest and it’s also scary to be honest….Ha!….A lot of single men and women do go out, to mingle among the masses and at times, get scared back into their comfort zones because of what they are confronted with. As a woman, you look across the room and lock eyes with the Jack Nicholson from The Shining type, which is totally freaky! Or see the shadow of an amazon type woman looking like she just jumped out of a Barbie gift box, but if we are strong enough as an independent woman, as much as intimidating the views are, we shant succumb to the fear of competition or intimidation, but laugh at it. Surely there are men who will look about a room and see the same, but in female form, the She Devil of the Shining or that woman ready to get her teeth into him like he is a fine cut steak..lol… There are those singles out there that are looking just for that, the fast and furious. Which leaves the ones just wanting a relationship that doesn’t leave you running to the door within the first 24 hours. Slow and easy, baby steps is the best. Not the attitude, well are we doing this or not!? No one likes to be pressured, especially when it comes to wanting to be vulnerable with another person. We shouldn’t read too much into what others think we need, every one has an opinion and always will. I am thinking after I file my income tax this year, Revenue Canada will probably leave a PS at the bottom of my assessment return .. “Still single Cynthia?!”.. ha!!! We are in the era of speaking out, saying exactly what we want, when we want it, instead of listening to what we are really appreciated for. Which is hard at times because we don’t want to sound over zealous either. Bah!, dammed if we don’t and dammed if we do! Just enjoy life. Get out there an mingle if you’re single! Maybe if we keep in mind, that Mr./Ms. Right isn’t going to come break into our homes looking for us, that we actually need to get out to be found, that it is the best part of the single life journey. We can’t give up!! I know I won’t, even if studies show that 9 out of 10 men prefer women with big butts ( I got no butt..lol) and the other 1 man prefers the 9 men. I will be found by the happy medium, at some point.