I have been told a few times in the past few years, I am not envied when it comes to dating at my age.. Because of the majority of egotistical a-holes I have been approached by. And I do and always will give kudos to the men who are to say the least gentlemen from the start, they are few and far between.
Over time I have learnt to say, No, without hesitation when I sense a man is lying or is being disrespectful and there are those men who you are not sure about, and you want to investigate the possibility of, just maybe he is the one. You want to give the benefit of the doubt, even after listening to Dr. Phil say over and over.. Do not give the benefit of doubt to any man!
Maybe I am still naïve, after being with one man for 30 years, since I was 14 yrs old and never really dated? I have dealt with all that past relationship stuff, where I do wish him the best and any man after him, will not be judged by that 30 year relationship but on their own merit. But there is so much ego out there and it is frustrating. Does the concept of honesty and respect not exist?!
Good God! How I am trying to stay classy! But there is this side of me that just wants to tear someone’s tongue out of their mouth and then slap them on the back of the face!
Long story short example…
Guy dates girlfriend.. Approx. 7 yrs ago
Guy and girlfriend break up
Guy askes yours truly to date
Yours truly says NO
Guy says, ‘lets have some fun, we both adults”
Yours truly says, NO!
Guy re-appears, askes yours truly again for one night stand
Yours truly says, NO!
Guys ego hurt says, “People like you that give women in your town a bad name!”
Yours truly about ready to pull tongue out of his mouth
But she calms down.
Guys says another note, “You tell lies..get off this site!” (thinking he read my profile About Me section)
Now yours truly is ready to slap him in the back of the face.. but settles to block him.
It is guys like him who have no respect for women that make it hard for any woman, let alone one over 40 to want to even date or make an effort to leave the quiet simple life of being single. One would think by the time a man or woman is 40 years old, they can take NO for an answer and leave the relationship with dignity and not be a psychopath! By stalking, harassing or insulting the person who does not want to engage any contact, let alone any intimacy with them.
I am not perfect and am not looking for the perfect man, but shouldn’t all men and women treat others with some level of respect?
I am now feeling a sense of detachment with regards to the big world of dating or finding a man who is right for me. Once again, I will leave it in God’s hands and let him ring the neck, pull out the tongues and smack them up behind the face, these guys who just don’t know the definition of what a MAN is.