To Play Or Not To Play?
I think we all have a friend, a single friend, who wants just to be loved by another, some one that will be honest and respectful of them. Sometimes that friend is ourselves. That need can be so strong at times, it is like a beacon to those who like to play, with hearts. If it is a friend, being on the outside of the box looking in, you see how the new person in your friends life is playing them but your friend won’t hear that, does not want to hear that and makes up excuses for the player, only extending what eventually will be a recovery of the broken heart.
Here is a 6 signs of a good player according to, Isabella Snow on Hub Pages.. She uses, “he”, but I think players can and are, male or female.
1. He expressly denies being one.
In my experience, the men who come straight out (unprovoked) and proclaim that they aren’t players, tend to be precisely that. He will announce this the first time he screws up, or senses that you’re leery about him. And he’s operating on reflex. You see, he’s so used to being accused of being one, that he instinctively plays offense from the start, in the hope you might be gullible enough to believe what you hear, rather than what you see.
2. He’s too smooth.
Does he have an answer for everything? A really good answer for everything? I’m not surprised. as it comes from years of practice. He’s made all the big mistakes and has plenty of experience with smoothing things over. He knows what you want to hear, because he’s learned well from his previous enablers. Don’t add yourself to the list.
3. He’s always slightly aloof.
He pays just enough attention to make you crave more, but little enough to make you wonder how interested he really is. This ploy is designed to make you want more — which is what most of you end up doing — and some of you will go out of your way to get his attention via methods you wouldn’t normally lower yourself to. That’s exactly what he wants; you crawling on your knees for his attention.
4. He’s fantastic in bed.
These guys are so good in bed that many women will overlook the crap he pulls, just to get the chance to play house with him. Not every man who is good in bed is a player, obviously, but if he is, and if he’s also got any of the previous traits, he’s probably a player. Unfortunately, this trait is desirable enough that many women are willing to overlook the other traits, if only for a period of time.
5. His communication skills suck.
Unless there’s a very good reason, if a man doesn’t answer your text/email/phone call within 24 hours, he’s playing a game. And the men who deny the truth of that statement by claiming that some men are just too busy…? They’re full of shite. If you really like someone, you can find a minute to at least text them. No one is that busy! If your man does this on a regular basis, he’s playing games.
6. He makes you feel like you’re overreacting when you’re not.
Let me give you an example: He promises to call you at 8pm, but doesn’t contact you until the next day. Why? Because he decided that pizza with his mates would be more fun. When asked why he couldn’t be bothered to let you know, to send you a text at least, he replies by making you feel like you’re being clingy or too demanding. This guy is a tosser!